My boyfriend of 2 years wants to propose, but Im not sure I want to marry him. You both need to figure out your why. We sign a piece of paper. I want us all to have the same name and I want him to Barry me. But her friend his new wife knew and she said they kept their relationship secret for a long time because they were cheating on me. I realised that this would bother him because in his mind it would be something he could manipulate her with to get his way because he is the kind of person who everything has to be his way and only his interests served at the expense of the interests of his wife - no give and take whatsoever from him, which is why our marriage broke down and then destroyed by taking up with another woman who desperately wants what is not hers The whole situation is very sad.
If we end up having more similar long term relationship goals, we can reconsider. I feel like I did the right thing, you have to follow your gut. These sre very dangerous splinters to carry in you. Stop asking him how he feels about marriage. Try a few times to get a clear answer from him, and you may be able to get a forced yes or no. We are good together and our family has blended together nicely. I wondee what the future will be like.
He is the one who pursued me. I am 38 and he 39. So we starting having long and romantic conversations over the ph. He said that i am a great person and he wants to be the best boyfriend for me and he said that we can make a good future. Never lived with a woman. To add insult to injury, my family doesn't recognize my queer relationships.
I was with a woman for seven years. He was outraged, but seemed to forget all about it pretty fast. That will hurt you in time by affecting your own health. That relationship was ended in July of 2007 and for a while afterward I really wanted to find a companion and get married. But now I am unsure again, and afraid that he has already bought a ring. I'm of split minds here, and admit to being a little biased, being someone who, at 39, has never put much stock in marriage as a goal.
I cry a lot about it, but try not to in front of him. My teens love him because he has a big heart. By the grace of God I have 11 years recovery. It nearly broke us apart. All his friends are either living together or married but he still is happy how he is. It's not unheard of for a guy to end a long-term relationship of several years and turn around to get engaged to another woman in a year or less. I am not a person who does the dating site.
This behavior seemed irrational and childish to me. And I know there is nothing out there. This might not be the right person to be with after all if you are convinced that marriage is the way to go and he istrying to avoid that commitment like the plague. I myself never wanted children, and do not appreciate the manipulative, self-serving, and controlling aspects of men who convince themselves, independent of me, that I must want to be a housewife with five kids bound and chained to the home. If you enter a relationship thinking that marriage is the only possible good thing you might get out of it, then you are limiting your options and missing out on all the beautiful and important lessons that love can leave you, even if a relationship isn't built to last.
I was so surprised and exciteD. I cried my heart out and he ignored me. Because it takes two to tango. All the best to you and yours! Yes, you give up trying after awhile because you cannot handle the disappointment anymore. I love my family and I would never leave because of this but how long do I need to wait for? I used to be a university lecturer and I always had my own property, I have a lifelong medical condition which became very difficult to live with once I reached about 38, we bought a house, I put my money down as a big deposit as I was about to be medically retired. We sign a piece of paper. I think the older one gets one realizes that things are different.
Trust is not something that happens right away, but something you build, slowly and patiently, together, with respect that someone else's past may put them on a slightly different timeline in the trust department as you. That is sad within itself. These probably feel like harsh words. Marriage Is About Property, Not Love Marriage is more about property, alliances, and money than it is about love. What if you travel the world together and learn about new cultures? Some people want marriage at a younger age, but simply lack the social skills necessary to meet the right person.
So that me as that I need to surrender the pen. This is not what you want. Since my previous bf started to ignore my texts , I did not want to go through the same crap again with this new guy. After losing 150 lbs she went behind my back and cheated on me with a married guy she met online. This upsets me a lot as he has said some hurtful things to me that make me question our relationship. Yesterday I had to ask, were you for real about eloping in September? Just a sour relationship filled with empty promises.