Your Temperament: Discover Its Potential. Cholerics do not easily empathize with the feelings of others or show compassion. Temperament behavior is, for the most part, predictable. Their constant cravings may lead to overeating and weight problems. They have plans and date purposefully and they are out looking for someone who helps them to achieve their goals. Between , this temperament falls in love less frequently.
Further on you can discover more about the temperaments theory and the basic traits of each of the four temperaments. The inactivity they feel sometimes comes off as passivity. They will 'challenge' others aggressively in order to show their respect for the person's strength. Phlegmatics live a quiet, routine life free of the normal anxieties of the other temperaments. They believe in 'tough love', and try to 'help' others by challenging them to prove themselves, as they themselves would. Melancholies are conscientious, picky, and can be sensitive to what others think of their work. Generally they are highly independent and follow their own rules.
While Builders are cautious , they are not fearful. Phlegmatics will be very loyal to their friends. However, once a relationship is broken, they seldom return. Choleric people approach dating in the same manner they approach other issues in their lives — they analyze their hopes and needs, as well as the potential partner. Some Melancholies will be very strong, others somewhat strong, and still others more mild. They take the path of least resistance whenever possible. They are first to want to go out for recess, and they are impatient with those who are slow or weak.
He can be an excellent counselor because he is an active listener. Other researchers developed similar systems, many of which did not use the ancient temperament names, and several paired extraversion with a different factor which would determine relationship and task-orientation. Because of this, they easily shift their attention from one thing to another, and can sometimes find themselves juggling many different tasks, dreams, and life plans at once. The phlegmatic students moved their chairs to the deepest part of the water spill and sat down and the melancholic students shook their heads in dismay, predicted that no one would ever be able to clean up such a large spill and that the paintings would all be ruined. Through its unforgettable cast of characters, this novel reveals how the demands of the flesh can suddenly, almost inexplicably, turn lives upside down.
However, Builders can go overboard. Sanguines are personable, receptive, open to others, and build relationships quickly. When they are with their potential partners, phlegmatic people seek for common intellectual and emotional ground, which will serve as a bridge from heart to heart. Ultimately, it's what ruined their marriage. Sex is very meaningful to them, but they do not share the details of their sex life with their friends.
They have a cautious, tentative response designed to reduce tension in an unfavorable environment. To them sex and love are interconnected — the exact opposite of typical sanguine approach. I like the brief and precise descriptions used by John Lopker, in his following book Pictures of Personality. His weaknesses combine the quick anger of the Sanguine with the resentment of the Choleric. They feel that they can define and understand and advise others, but laugh at the thought that others could do the same to them. Such is the burden of a melancholic. In fact, when dating, they truly give themselves and it has been known for them at times, to get so tired emotionally that they stop dating for a period of time.
When this occurs, it is difficult to determine their temperament. Sanguine people are good listeners and they will always ask you about yourself in order to engage you and to satisfy their curiosity. This determines a series of characteristics that are classically described in the theory. Because they often see issues in black and white, they miss out on the humanness that often makes up a lot of social, and personal situations, and may feel like they cannot relate to others. They love people and discussions.
Set against the glamorous, exciting world of the New York City Ballet, The Four Temperamentsexplores the ways in which love and marriage are tested. Instead of expressing their emotions they will focus on pleasing you by getting you what you want. Most Cholerics are men, and born leaders who exude confidence; they are naturally gifted businessmen, strong willed, independent, self sufficient, they see the whole picture, organize well, insist on production, stimulate activity, thrive on opposition, are unemotional and not easily discouraged. Cholerics are extroverted, quick-thinking, active, practical, strong-willed, and easily annoyed. In fact, it is still used today by practitioners of traditional medicine around the world. People expressive of certain genes in the dopamine system also tend to lack introspection; they have a hard time looking within themselves. Choleric-melancholic people are highly motivated to succeed.