I am 61 year old male. End the conversation first sometimes. And when she does, be very supportive and encouraging, be a good listener, and make her feel good about herself. But how do I do this? Can you let me know what part of the book led you to the belief that I want you to be like that? In order for women to ignore and look past your beer gut and the fact you are out of shape, first you have to stop giving a shit about it. Making her see that you are great in something would get her to notice you and this would definitely help you in getting around her.
Here's a paraphrase of what you said: Challenging a woman who's a 9 or a 10 will fail to get her chasing me because. My background and expertise happens to be in marketing and business strategy. If she perceives herself as being out of a man's league but then. What happened to being myself? How good you feel about your finances, health, career, peer group, business, personal growth, spiritual life, emotional health, etc. It starts with opening up and sharing yourself rather than closing down and hiding. Remember, these women are used to wanting, and getting, the best — especially if they see other women in their circle coveting that item. But pairs who were friends before they became lovers received more dissimilar scores in the looks department.
You put off a certain vibe with words when you say them Paul. He challenges her with a strong intent something magical happens. It's ok to start slowly, just maintain a flirtatious attitude so your intent remains clear. And … most of them are used to having beautiful women fall all over them, without them ever having to do or say anything to charm these women. Your physiology is communicating that your self-esteem is on the same level as the un-attractive chicks. The more she tells you about herself, the more new things you will have to talk about and follow-up on.
You simply have to present the opportunity in front of her. The emphasis on physical beauty even over talent see: most boy bands, idol singers, 99% of the winners of American Idol means that most celebrities tend to be sexier than the average bear. Sure, it will be awesome for a while, but after the newness and excitement of the whirlwind romance wears off, you are still left with you and your ability to look at the world and find things to be happy and excited about. We just want a decent woman and sex on tap. You are not one of those guys! You should wait for the right time and approach her in a light hearted manner. A high-priced gigolo can do what no other man can.
And if she is conceited then you will be grateful you didn't ask her out on a real date. Every relationship will have its ups and downs even if they are little ones. And, that is why this business is booming! So easy to fall back into old ways. Remember, women are used to guys coming on too strong. That means, keeping your clients happy. But…there is one area where you will have to do the exact opposite. Unless he's Ken, authentic and real has a lot more long-term appeal than being Barbie ever will.
And they may try to rattle your cage a little bit. As I said earlier, a lot of women are drawn to a man with money, power, and social status. The key here is to understand that it is actually you who gives a pretty girl this status and makes her special. Not, I would think, something most of us would find attractive in a potential partner. You are either a doer or a talker. Instead of choosing excitement, challenge and the rewards that come after years of diligent effort to perfect ones health, career, business, finances, relationships, etc.
So, if these women really do have almost everything they could ever desire … and all the money and power to buy anything they could ever think of, why would they need a high-priced gigolo? Talkers talk and engage in a mental circle-jerk with themselves. Don't be too quick to compare all other men unfavorably to him. Most of my ideas did not work, but over time I learned from my mistakes and today I enjoy the rewards of all my hard work, sacrifice and despite the harsh treatment I received and endured from some of the people who I once thought were my friends. If you want to make a girl fall for you then make her want to be with you. Talk to him one human to another. When you ignore someone who is really trying to communicate and tell you something, you are insulting them on a deeply personal level.
Guys make the mistake of asking her questions just so they can appear to be interested in her. The drive for love, sex, and connection has a way of overruling everything in the end. Next, you have to believe that you are worth the high price! Note: Do not get too sexual with this stuff until you get a clear signal from her. Do not let some limiting beliefs hold you back. Other people are mystified by the appeal of Megan Fox or Anna Paquin or Kerry Washington or Morena Baccarin or Jordana Brewster. If you want someone happy and well-adjusted, behave accordingly.