I am sure you are very correct in your thoughts. If he makes any comparisons to make you feel less worthy than you really are, this is a major red light. Everything you said could have come from me. Let them be who they are and in the same token you or whoever should be who you are and what happens as a result happens. IÂm tired of tip toeing over issues - afraid of an angry outburst. Simple gestures like kissing, cuddling, or even just holding your hand are indicators that a guy is still attracted to you.
Your vulnerability is so attractive, and I really admire you for having the hope to reach out for support. Can someone please help me? I was tempted to tell him why my way was better, but when I did, that just got me back into the dreaded mom role. As it stands, my husband is taking an apartment nearby. We start to take our spouse for granted, leading them to think that they are not important in our lives. When a mans testosterone is high, it is really difficult for him to turn it off. I told him that it no longer works for us and I do not want it here in our life. I was glad to hear this because this was the first time there was some kind of communication.
Sheryl, Sorry to hear about your separation and not much liking your husband at the moment. At the very end of my pregnancy I couldnt have sex for medical reasons,but I still helped my husband out if you know what i mean. I think it might be a solution for me cause i feel exactly the same. Which, to some degree I understand, but at the same time I am feeling a bit devastated and unsure of where to go from here. Even though you get older, you are still the same person inside.
I feel fortunate and blessed to have someone who has been so committed to our family. Solo counseling for you or a good girlfriend can help you work through those 'talk 'em to death' issues without boring your husband. I've been thinking a lot about barbarafl's message; especially the part about my kids thinking they have a depressed and angry mom. Is there a surrendered husbands book? If he didn't feel under pressure to have intercourse, might he be more willing to be physical? I just want to be desired! I also don't want them to think that this is what their marriage should look like. For many men, that place is work. Sometimes men will get depressed themselves when they see their partner going through something that is completely out of their control that they can't fix.
I was never touched until I touched, I had to ask for what was, in my view a very natural act of affection, intermacy and sextual pleasure. I will never know what truly went on. He always came around and we spent time together. You feel like a freak. If other people are upset that you leave him, well quite frankly they should marry him. If you have kept yourself in good shape.
It has gotten to the point where after so many arguments I just now have no desire to have sex with him. Back in those glory days, I was flirting, laughing at his jokes, smiling at him, thanking him for taking me out, and admiring him. Sorry, I know I am rambling but I think I just need to get stuff written down. They don't even know that there is a something else. A good marriage requires weekly face-to-face time — both talk and fun. However, he does work longer so I want to do nice things for him, just like he does for me after a long day.
Yes, he would get annoyed sometimes, but that was his problem. Tough part is going to be broaching the subject I guess. What do you got to loose. You know, nobody in his family has good marriages. It … Read more » John — Testosterone levels have been dropping for decades for causes unknown. Maybe that's what's bothering him? So I figured taking care of my husband was just part of being a wife. I have been married almost 34 years.
Pills and shots only produce ability not willingness or desire. Yes, it's is now a vicious circle, I am insecure and hide my body becaudr I think there is something wrong with me because he does not want to have sex with me. I have questioned whether there was a level of addiction with my husband. Believe it or not, you have plenty of reasons to worry. The problem with having these kinds of conversations with your husband is that when you put him on the spot, he gets defensive. I must admit, though, that I wonder if a person can separate themselves from their sexuality without it changing them. We fought so much after the years because of this.
IÂm tired of people thinking IÂm the one who has a problem. I dated on and off and am not currently interested. My husband rather hauls logs until late hours, instead of spending time with me and making love. My husband has no interest in having sex with me, no interest in doing anything to change it, etc. Guess what he gives me material things, is kinder then he was before, but still a sex less marriage. There are detailed instructions for how to go from being the kitchen elf to feeling like the queen in your relationship. I asked him to go to the Dr.
I was also resentful about having to do everything for him. Not enough for me and I am getting more and more frustrated. You are too young for that. I'm sure he's already told you but it's not you. Porn Hard to know which is the lead domino without knowing more about your situation. Is he not aware that sex is not happening? People have been conditioned to think that men have the higher sex drive. He seems to have no interest in intimacy at all and I do! He masterbates down there,so what is making him get in a mood to … Read more » Mrs.