I've been married for 19 years to the same man and we have 6 children. He was emotionally shut off from intimacy, which we realized together was a huge problem for him. I just don't need or want that. Even giving a few ultimatums is okay. My husband said that my mother is my worst enemy, and I think he's right. I was prescribed in the emergency room that day Prozac and tried to take all of my medicines as prescribed. Women, of course, have always been victims and as par with the course for victims, nothing quite makes up for their victimization.
I started rebelling and was leaving home for long periods of time. Now I need to finish what I started, I need a boost to keep my momentum going before something makes my heart sink again. If your ex tries to convince or even beg you to stay, repeat a condensed version of your previous statement. My run for freedom hit a high electric fence. I used to browse the internet late at night until I went drowsy with tiredness, and only then could I sleep, otherwise the thoughts and restless self-imprisoning mind plague me. My mother favored my brother my whole life.
My brother is only 17 and has been abused by my mom his while life and doesn't even realize that he's being abused. My older sister was also really nasty to me but seemed to be remorseful in the end. My kids are all that keeps me from killing myself. I am so scared that nothing significant will ever change. And while a quick Google may primarily reveal materials aimed at parents who have been cut off, the Internet is actually chock-full of support communities for folks with toxic parents, including those who have broken contact with them. My mother was essentially unemployable and very angry. If you feel like your feelings are getting belittled, your opinion doesn't matter or you can't express your thoughts, there is lack of respect in your relationship.
I spent so much time living for the people around me that I didn't even know who I was. It has become a strange and wierd relationship and the psychology is off. I was forgetting to eat and drink, which I still do today whenever I feel sad about a situation or interaction with someone. The tears have dried up. I went through a honeymoon phase where I felt great. My 'selfish sibling' will take everything for their 'wants'.
Thise willing to speak up, or the squeaky wheel, are usually the people who are ostracized. If he sounds too good to be true, he probably is. Still keep in contact with my little brother, but that's it. On the other side of that no self-respecting woman would take it for 40 years. As in making that life changing action. He sexually abused my children for years.
Although I should have clarified a bit, part of it is a 70 minute train ride as long as I can grab an express so I can actually get work done on the way in as well as going home. My sadness is too much. I live with 3 other brothers and have an older brother not living with us. I was devastated and am just now getting my senses again…. They can be bad, and cruel, and toxic — despite being your blood. I am starting to realize that its affecting every aspect of my life.
I will leave first and struggle to create a life that is simple and kind. I don't know why I didn't tell them back then when it was happening maybe things might have been different? Not all women are lazy and nasty. I was just starting to feel better and then these weepy feelings of missing my days of having young children have crept in. My one amazing talent in life is drawing and creating things, and it feels like a totally useless talent because of how saturated the industry seems now. So one day, I decided to just leave.
I go by a different name now and I have no regrets. I never respond to comments. She will never apologize, have no remorse, she's the victim in all this not her children. I have always been close to my parents. This is the most difficult part of deciding to leave a toxic relationship, but it is also the first step to living a healthy life. So I went to medical school in Ireland.